Men consider their hands and fingers as their most important tools in bed.
It’s a common faulty belief (amongst men) that the penis is the number one tool in bed.
I couldn’t disagree more.
Your hands and fingers are much more reliable and versatile when it comes to giving women orgasms – especially squirting orgasms.
In this article you will learn how to finger a girl the right way.
We’ll focus on vaginal fingering.
How to Finger a Girl – Step 1: Preparations
Sex doesn’t start in the bedroom. It doesn’t even start with foreplay.
Long before you even meet your girl (wife/girlfriend/one-night-stand), you have to prepare yourself. When it comes to fingering a girl, your fingers and especially your finger nails have to be ready.
You finger nails should of course be well groomed all the time, since it’s one of the things women always look at when meeting a man. It’s unlikely that a woman will even have sex with you if you have dirty fingers or sharp finger nails.
If you haven’t already done so, buy yourself a nail clipper and a good nail file. Use YouTube if you don’t know how to groom your nail – it’s not that difficult. If you have really bad nails then go get a manicure. It’s well worth it.
Now you’re ready to meet your girl. She’ll definitely notice your well groomed fingers, but she probably don’t know what you’re about to do with them.
Soon she’ll be addicted to your fingers.
How to Finger a Girl – Step 2: Make Her Wet
Now, here is one very important thing I want you to understand.
Fingering is for women very, very intimate. For many it’s more intimate than intercourse. Make sure your partner feels safe and intimate with you before you finger her.
Besides creating trust and intimacy, you have to make her wet.
There are two good reasons for this:
Reason 1
This is a cardinal rule when it comes to any form of vaginal stimulation: only touch a woman’s private parts when she is highly aroused.
Women are different than us guys when it comes to this. I’m sure it’s totally fine with you that your partner plays with your privates, even when you’re not aroused. For women it’s different.
Wait until your partner is wet. It’s a bad idea to use vaginal stimulation before building arousal. Fingering and other types of vaginal stimulation are first and foremost for giving women orgasms. It’s not for creating arousal.
Reason 2
You need your partner to be wet, because you are going to use her wetness as lubrication. Of course you can use other types of lube, such as oil or saliva, but there is nothing like a woman’s natural juices.
How to Finger a Girl – Step 3: How to Enter
Hopefully you have taken your time making your girl wet. The best time for touching her vagina is when she is almost begging you to do it.
Few things are as fun as getting a girl so horny that she’s pleading you to take her. Continue teasing her also after you start to stimulate her vagina.
Don’t put a finger inside her yet. Begin with her inner thighs and pussy lips. Be patient and let her wait for it. Women just love to be teased.
Slowly enter one finger inside of her, and make sure the finger is wet. You should never enter a woman with a dry object, even when she’s wet inside.
Begin with one finger first, and then add one or two more. It isn’t much you can do wrong as long as you don’t twist your fingers too fast when you’re inside of her. It’s better to pull your fingers partly out before you turn them around.
Side note: Remember to have your main focus on your partner, not her vagina or your fingers. Continue to kiss, talk and look at her. It’s extremely important for women to communicate when having sex.
In fact, if you continue to kiss and talk to your partner in bed, she will most likely let you do anything you want with her body.
How to Finger a Girl – Step 4: Stimulate the Right Areas
A common mistake guys do when fingering women is that they use their finger(s) as it is a dildo or a penis. Poking your finger in and out won’t do much for your partner.
One of the reasons for fingering a woman in the first place is to stimulate certain sensitive areas inside of the vagina. During intercourse, a woman doesn’t get an orgasm because of friction. She gets an orgasm because these sensitive areas are stimulated in a rhythmic motion.
With your fingers you can stimulate these areas directly, which makes your fingers a much better tool for giving your partner an orgasm.
There are especially two areas where finger stimulation is effective for producing orgasms. They are called the g-spot and the deep-spot. These two areas are as effective to give women orgasms as the clitoris. And often they are much more reliable than the clit.
The g-spot is located about 2-3 inches (5-7 cm) inside of the vagina, at the front wall. The texture of the g-spot is usually ridged. It’s almost like touching cooked rice grains. The deep-spot is also located at the front wall, but its location is a little deeper inside than the g-spot. The texture of the deep-spot is completely smooth.
You don’t have to be that precise when you stimulate these two spots. Just enter one or two fingers inside of the vagina – half way or all the way in – then press the pads of your fingers up against the vaginal wall. Press down if your partner is lying on her stomach or standing on all fours.
When you press your fingers up against the g-spot (or deep-spot), look at your partner’s facial expressions. You will definitely know when you’re hitting the right area. Most girls breathe in instantly, with a loud gasp. Many tend to throw their head back too.
It’s important that you use a lot of force against these spots. Gentle stroking won’t do. Don’t be afraid to be forceful, a woman is built to take the weight of a man twice her size, and your fingers aren’t that strong. (Be reasonable, though. Start out with less force.)
Note: The g-spot and especially the deep-spot are located right next to the bladder. If your partner stops you when you start to stimulate this area, it’s likely because she feels like she’s going to pee.
Don’t just take it for granted that you’re doing anything wrong or that she feels pain. Most women will rather give you a signal to stop than tell you they feel like peeing – because that would be to embarrassing.
When I stimulate a woman’s g-spot or deep-spot for the first time, and she sends me a signal to stop, I usually say something like this, “Do you feel like you’re going to pee? …I know, but you won’t. Trust me, it’s just the feeling.”
This shows her that I know what I’m doing, and she can relax and enjoy her soon to come orgasm.
Another thing you have to do to give your partner a g-spot/deep-spot orgasm is to press and release in a rhythmic motion. A vagina is “designed” to orgasm after the continuous rhythmic in and out motion of a penis.
Rapid pressing and releasing your fingers up against the g-spot or deep-spot simulate this in and out motion of a penis.
Since your fingers stimulate the sensitive areas of a woman’s vagina directly, a woman can get an orgasm much faster than through intercourse. This fingering technique is the most efficient way to give your partner an orgasm.
A heads up: Some women start to squirt in large amounts during this fingering technique. Don’t freak out – it’s not urine. It’s called female ejaculation and it’s very common.
Tip: After you’re done fingering your girl, let her taste your fingers. Most women just love to taste themselves.
Good luck with fingering your girl!
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