The side dish idea spells anxiety, even dread, to most women in relationships. If you listen to women talk on the streets or on social media, then you know that the other woman is constant on the minds of many Ugandan women. It has left many women crying their eyes out and men trying to keep hold of their crumbling marriages. If we may say, a side dish is an outside boyfriend or girlfriend to an already married person. The biggest side dishes though are girls and most lately women if we can differentiate the two. The trend has been for older men to have extra marital affairs with young campus and corporate girls.
However, this has changed and anyone regardless of age can be a side dish. The side dish business usually affects women mostly since the men have proved to have huge and untamed appetite for the down south. And while they are affected more, most women tend to act irrationally when they find out that their husbands are busy enjoying more than just a meal at another female’s house. Before you troll that poor thing, here is why you shouldn’t do something stupid.
Whose fault is it?
It is indeed not good for another woman to be sleeping with someone’s husband but before you send those threats, first ask yourself if it is her fault. Despite the change in trends, the man still holds an upper hand in initiating a relationship. In this case, you cannot begin blaming a side dish for falling for all the nice and kind gestures your husband has been throwing at her. So before you send her to Lucifer, your husband should be on his way already.
Be sure
Even a simple message from or to the ‘side dish’ is usually misinterpreted by the partner. Before you send her hurricanes of messages, be sure she is actually in a compromising relationship with your partner. Sometimes simple work and social relationships have misinterpreted by the insecurities the partners possess.
Know her stand
Often times, the side dish is actually trying to warn your man off but some of them remain persistent due to reasons best known to them. While the side dish is busy chasing your man back to you, the man is instead running back to her arms. Who is to blame in this case? Lisa, an accountant who has been faced with a married man situation says “Peter was so insistent on her despite refusing to pick his calls, and answering his messages. The guy would make my phone busy all day despite me blocking him and refusing to pick his calls. He changed numbers and tried all possible ways to keep in touch with me.”
Know your place
The best thing to ever happen in your relationship is know where you belong in a man’s life. Whether married, cohabiting or still courting, one should know where they stand in their partner’s life. Knowing not only calms your fears but also gives you an upper hand in knowing who to blame when you are face with a side dish situation. Don’t be shocked when your partner chooses the side dish after embarrassing yourself before him/her over a partner you thought would hold down for you.
