In this era many relationships keep failing day in and Day out. On Saturday evening, as I was at home listening to music, a certain song from self proclaimed ghetto president Bobi Wine caught my ears, guess what ‘Specioza’ jam is something else.
In this song Bobi Wine sings about his relationship with a one beautiful girl Specioza who played him with fellow artistes like Chagga during his trial days. He got dumped because he had no money but he decided to move on and that's how Barbie Itungo ended up being his dream wife.
To many moving on after a break up is the worst night mare to ever dream of, yes it's much hard to skip but will guide you on a quality 5 step solution: Check this below;
Avoid the memories
Memories is such a thief of joy, avoid places like the Theatre,night club and restaurant where you used to visit and have quality time .Infact distance yourself as much as possible from the things that remind you of him/her. The things that you two loved to do. Clean up the house and throw/burn those gifts that he or she gave you as they create and steal part of your happiness.
Create a new self being
Move beyond your fears but quieting the mind and filling the heart with love with some kind of meditation practice that enables you to stay in the present moment, appreciate what is right in front of you. This will allow you to let go of your fears and be open to the unknown. You can practice this meditation:Take five deep breaths and on the final one say
Thank you for bringing me to find my true self. I release you now.”
Challenge yourself physically
Many forms of exercise, especially ones you really enjoy, can help release endorphins, serotonin and dopamine; chemicals that stimulate those reward circuits and help you feel good. Physically getting stronger will also help you feel mentally stronger.
Surround yourself with love
Choose to step up your game, keep close with friends and be open to them as this will help you find new motives to move one .This gives you a new vibe to forget the previous relationship.
Commit
This seems to be the hardest of all but it's the most Key. This goes for both men and women: If you could not commit to the idea of being in a relationship with your lover, then commit to the idea of not being with him or her.
For most couples, it’s easy to fall back into each other’s arms the moment loneliness strikes, but you’re simply cheating yourselves.
When you make the decision to end a relationship, understand and embrace that it is truly the end, no matter how much it hurts. Then, you must challenge yourself to never speak to that person again.
